“We live in a world of such technological advance that every utterance and gesture is increasingly open to digital capture, whether at a street corner or in a private conversation in one’s home. Privacy experts and advocates are increasingly concerned about the deleterious effects of the unrestrained monitoring of our utterances and behaviour. On the internet, it is said that anything captured can never be forgotten. Provincial and federal legislation has been passed to try to find a reasonable meeting point between the right to information and the rights of privacy, security and free expression. It would be fair to say that the present legislative balance is continually subject to review.
In the evidentiary sphere, the general rule is that if it is relevant, it is admissible, provided that it is not hearsay. But that rule is as often honoured in the breach as it is in its fullest expression. The rules of evidence have evolved to balance various interests in ensuring that the court’s process and its search for truth works towards justice and the public’s interest despite the classical rules of evidence. Further, under r. 14(18) and (19), certain hearsay is admissible in family law motions.
One iteration of the evolution of evidentiary rules in family law is the reluctance to allow surreptitious recordings made by spouses of each other and their children. The reasons for that stance were articulated by Sherr J. in Hameed v. Hameed, 2006 ONCJ 274. There, Sherr J stated at paras. 11-12:
[11] … Surreptitious recording of telephone calls by litigants in family law matters should be strongly discouraged. There is already enough conflict and mistrust in family law cases, without the parties’ worrying about whether the other is secretly taping them. In a constructive family law case, the professionals and the courts work with the family to rebuild trust so that the parties can learn to act together in the best interests of the child. Condoning the secret taping of the other would be destructive to this process.
[12] I agree with Justice Henry Vogelsang who said in paragraphs [5] and [6] of Tatarchenko v. Tatarchenko (1998), 83 A.C.W.S. (3d) 792, [1998] O.J. No. 4685, 1998 CanLII 14087 (ON SC), 1998 CanLII 14087, 1998 CarswellOnt 4374 (Ont. Fam. Ct.):
[5] There is a wide scope for potential abuse in this practice.
[6] The reliability of such evidence is very difficult to determine, even for a trial judge who has the benefit of much more opportunity to explore all of the evidence than that enjoyed by a motions judge. The suspicious and disturbing circumstances surrounding the production of this “evidence” convince me that it should be struck in its entirety and should not be before the court.
The rule is not an absolute one. As Sherr J. noted, the court retains some discretion to determine whether the probative value of secretly recorded evidence outweighs the strong policy factors set out above.
The court’s discretion to exclude or allow secret recordings in family law matters was confirmed by the Court of Appeal for Ontario in Sordi v Sordi, 2011 ONCA 665. There, Epstein J. A., writing for the court, upheld the trial judge’s exercise of discretion to exclude the recordings. She referred at para. 12 to “the sound public policy of trying to discourage the use of secretly recorded conversations in family proceedings”.
In Scarlett v Farell, 2014 ONCJ 517, Spence J. of the Ontario Court of Justice, reviewed a number of cases that had been decided to date regarding the admission of surreptitious recordings into evidence. Those cases included Hameed, as well as Seddon v. Seddon, [1994] B.C.J. No. 1062 (B.C. S.C.), Toope v. Toope, 2017 CarswellNFld 185 (Nfld U.F.C.) and Reddick v. Reddick, [1997] O.J. No. 2497 (OC (GD)). Spence J. helpfully concluded that these cases, which offered differing results regarding the admission of such recordings contained a common seed of principle, which he set out at para. 31 as follows:
31 Although these cases may seem to take different approaches to the admissibility of surreptitious recordings of family conversations or events, in my view, all of the cases can be reconciled with one another. All the cases recognize the general repugnance which the law holds toward these kinds of recordings. However, at the end of the day, the court must consider what the recordings themselves disclose. And if the contents of those recordings are of sufficient probative value, and if, as Justice Sherr stated, the probative value outweighs the policy considerations against such recordings, then the court will admit them into evidence. It will do so having regard to the court’s need to make decisions about the best interests of children based upon sufficiently probative evidence that may be available to the court.
Spence J. admitted into evidence the recordings in the case before him, finding that they had probative value. But he was also clear that the recordings were not surreptitiously made. Had they been secretly recorded, Spence J. was clear that he would not have allowed them into evidence.
In F.(A.) v. A.(B.J.), 2017 ONCJ 108, Sager J. of the Ontario Court of Justice considered the authorities cited above. She allowed recordings made and transcripts created by one party into evidence, finding that the recordings were not secretly made. Moreover, even absent such a finding, she stated that she would have allowed them into evidence. In one of the recordings, the mother could be heard threatening to kill herself, disparaging the father and the child, “using racial slurs and profanity in excess”. Sager J. stated that the issues raised by the recordings were “of sufficient importance” to the determination of the issues before her that they should be admitted into evidence.
In L.R. v. Children’s Aid Society, 2020 ONSC 4341, Horkins J. of this court affirmed a ruling of Zisman J. of the Ontario Court of Justice (2020 ONCJ 22), extending the general prohibition on the admission of surreptitious recordings to child protection professionals and a reunification therapist.
In the years since Hameed was first decided by Sherr J., the attempt to admit secretly made recordings by one parent of another and/or the child/ren has surged from a trickle to a gusher. I find that I am regularly provided with secret recordings that one party has made of the other, which the recording party asks me to then consider in order to prove the instability or perfidy of the other. Most of the times, the recording is an edited or selectively recorded version of a highly contentious argument between the parties.
It is dangerous to the state of family law and more importantly, to the parties and children governed by it, to treat their dealings as if they were living under the Stasi in East Germany. Not everything is public and not every utterance or gesture needs to be recorded. To the contrary, routinely allowing our courts to reward a party’s attempt to secretly spy on the other by admitting the fruits of that conduct into evidence contributes to the corrosiveness of matrimonial litigation. That approach must be discouraged.
The only way that judges can effectively discourage such conduct is to refrain from rewarding it. To do that, courts must presume that the prejudicial effect of those secret recordings far outweighs their probative value to our system of family law and the best interests of the children affected by it. That presumption cannot be rebutted short of evidence disclosing serious misconduct by a parent, significant risk to a child’s safety or security, or a threat to another interest central to the need to do justice between the parties and children. Short of such evidence, courts must say “hands (or phones) off” the recording feature of parents’ smart phones when they seek to secretly record each other and their children.”
Van Ruyven v. Van Ruyven, 2021 ONSC 5963 (CanLII) at 30-41