June 2, 2020 – Joint Custody & Parallel Parenting
“The appellant’s third submission is that a joint custody order was not appropriate because the parties were continually in conflict over how best to raise Jacob and could neither co-operate nor communicate with each other on his upbringing. Courts have generally been reluctant to order joint custody where parents are unwilling to set aside their differences and work together to raise their child or children. See for example the reasons of Weiler J.A. in Kaplanis v. Kaplanis (2005), 2005 CanLII 1625 (ON CA), 10 R.F.L. (6th) 373 (Ont. C.A.). Here, however, despite the conflict between them, the parties, to their credit, have largely co-operated on major decisions affecting Jacob. The issue of Jacob’s schooling, to which I will return later in these reasons, is the exception.
Also, importantly, the trial judge did not merely order joint custody. He included with it a parallel parenting order. Many trial courts have recognized that joint custody under a parallel parenting regime may be suitable where both parents love the child and should play an active role in the child’s life, yet have difficulty communicating or reaching a consensus on the child’s upbringing. See T.J.M. v. P.G.M. (2002), 2002 CanLII 49550 (ON SC), 25 R.F.L. (5th) 78 (Ont. Sup. Ct. J.), and Mol v. Mol, [1997] O.J. No. 4060 (Sup. Ct. J.). The trial judge viewed parallel parenting to be suitable in this case, and I am not persuaded that he erred in ordering it.”