“The decision as to whether an order for sole custody or joint custody is in a child’s best interests is ultimately a matter of judicial discretion. However, a number of general principles have emerged from Kaplanis, Lawson and the subsequent case-law to assist in the decision-making process. These can be summarized as follows:
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- There is no default position in favour of joint custody. Each case is fact-based and discretion-driven (Kaplanis; Ladisa v. Ladisa, 2005 CanLII 1627 (ON CA), 2005 CarswellOnt 268 (Ont. C.A); Rubinov-Liberman v. Liberman, 2014 ONSC 5700(S.C.J.); Palumbo v. Palumbo, 2017 CarswellOnt 236 (S.C.J.)).
- Joint custody should only be considered as an option if both parents are fit parents and able to meet the general needs of the children. This is a threshold issue before the court considers the question of whether the parties are able to effectively communicate on issues relating to the children (Kaplanis; T.E.H., at para. 446).
- The quality of past parenting and decision-making, both during the parties’ relationship and post-separation, is a critical factor in determining whether joint custody is appropriate (Milford. v. Catherwood, 2014 CarswellOnt 7879 (O.C.J.)).
- However, the mere fact that both parents acknowledge that the other is a “fit” parent does not mean that it is in the best interests of the child for a joint custody order to issue. The decision regarding the appropriate decision-making arrangement must take into consideration all factors relevant to the child’s best interests (Kaplanis, at para. 10).
- Although some measure of communication and cooperation between the parties is necessary to support a joint custody order, the court is not required to apply a standard of perfection in assessing the parents’ ability to work together. As Quinn, J. remarked in Brook v. Brook,2006 CanLII 12294 (ON SC), [2006] O.J. No. 1514 (Ont. S.C.J.), “the cooperation needed is workable, not blissful; adequate, not perfect.”
- The fact that one party insists that the parties are unable to communicate with each other is not in and of itself sufficient to rule out the possibility of a joint custody order. The court must carefully consider the parties’ past and current parenting relationship and reach its own conclusions respecting the parties’ ability to communicate, rather than simply relying on allegations of conflict by one or both of the parties (Kaplanis, at para. 11; Ladisa). The existence of conflict and strife between the parties from time to time, and at the time of trial, will not necessarily preclude the court from making an order for joint custody. The question to be determined is whether the nature, extent and frequency of the conflict between the parties is such that it is impacting or likely to impact on the well-being of the children. If the evidence indicates that the parties, despite their conflict with each other, have been able to shelter the child from the conflict reasonably well and put the child’s interests ahead of their own when necessary, an order for joint custody may be appropriate (Ladisa). The question for the court to determine is “whether a reasonable measure of communication and cooperation is in place, and is achievable in the future, so that the best interests of the child can be ensured on an ongoing basis” (Warcop v. Warcop, 2009 CanLII 6423 (ON SC), 2009 CarswellOnt 782 (S.C.J.); Lambert v. Peachman, 2016 ONSC 7443(S.C.J.)).
- Where an objective review of the historical and more recent evidence clearly indicates that there has never been an ability to cooperate or communicate effectively, or that one or both of the parties is/are unable to put the needs of the child before their own, joint custody is not an appropriate order (Hildinger v. Carroll, 2004 CarswellOnt 444 (C.A.);Kaplanis; Ladisa). In these circumstances, hoping that communication between the parties will improve once the litigation is over does not provide a sufficient basis for making an order of joint custody (Kaplanis). There must be a clear evidentiary basis for believing that joint custody would be feasible (Iannizzi v Iannizzi, 2010 ONCA 519 (C.A.), at para. 2).
- In cases involving very young children, the court must take into consideration the fact that the child is unable to easily communicate their physical, emotional, developmental and other needs. Accordingly, the need for effective communication between the parties in a joint custodial arrangement will be particularly pressing in such circumstances (Kaplanis, at para. 11).
- The wishes of the child will also be relevant to the decision respecting the appropriate custodial disposition in cases involving older children. Although a child’s wishes in such circumstances do not necessarily synchronize perfectly with the child’s best interests, “the older the child, the more an order as to custody requires the co-operation of the child and consideration of the child’s wishes” (Kaplanis, at para. 13).
- Evidence as to how an interim custody and access order has worked, and in particular, whether the parties have been able to set aside their personal differences and work together in the best interests of the child, will be highly relevant to the ultimate decision regarding the appropriate custodial regime.
- In analyzing the ability of the parties to communicate, the court must delve below the surface and consider the source of the conflict. The Ontario Court of Appeal has clearly stated that one parent cannot create conflict and problems with the other parent by engaging in unreasonable conduct, impeding access, marginalizing the other parent, or by any other means and then justify a claim for sole custody in their favour on the basis of lack of cooperation and communication (Lawson; Ursic v. Ursic, 2004 CarswellOnt 8728 (Ont. S.C.J.), aff’d 2006 CanLII 18349 (ON CA), 2006 CarswellOnt 3335 (C.A.); Andrade v. Kennelly, 2006 CarswellOnt 3762 (Ont. S.C.J.), aff’d 2007 ONCA 898 (CanLII), 2007 CarswellOnt 8271 (C.A.)). Where the parties are both competent and loving parents, but one of them is the major source of the conflict, this factor may support an order for sole custody in favour of the other party (Alqudsi v. Dahmus, 2016 ONCJ 707(O.C.J.)).
- There has been an increasing willingness in recent years to order joint custody rather than sole custody where such an order is considered necessary to preserve the balance of power between the parties, particularly in cases where both parties are caring and competent parents but one party has been primarily responsible for the conflict between the parties (Habel v. Hagedorn, 2005 ONCJ 242 (CanLII), 2005 CarswellOnt 3863 (O.C.J.); Garrow v. Woycheshen,2008 ONCJ 686 (CanLII), 2008 CarswellOnt 8193 (O.C.J.); Bromley v. Bromley, 2009 ONCA 355 (CanLII), 2009 CarswellOnt 2210 (Ont. C.A.); R.K.K. v. B.M.M. and R.S., 2009 CarswellYukon 38 (Yuk. S.C.); Hsiung v. Tsioutsioulas, 2011 CarswellOnt 10606 (O.C.J.); Sinclair v. Sinclair, 2013 ONSC 1226 (S.C.J.); Caverley v. Stanley, 2015 ONSC 647 (S.C.J.); Ferreira v.Ferreira, 2015 ONSC 2845 (S.C.J.); T.E.H. ).
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While the foregoing comments outline the various factors and considerations which the courts have taken into consideration in deciding between sole vs. joint custody, the analysis must at all times remain firmly grounded in the best interests of the child before the court. Even if both parents are attentive and loving, a joint custody order may not coincide with the child’s best interests. As Pazaratz, J. stated in Izyuk v. Bilousov, 2011 ONSC 6451 (CanLII), 2011 CarswellOnt 12097 (S.C.J.) at para. 504, “[I]n the wrong family circumstances, a joint custody order can perpetuate hostilities, indecision, and power struggles. Children – particularly children already exposed to the upset of family breakdown – look to their parents for love, guidance, stability, protection, and consistency. They need to have confidence that adult decisions will be made quickly, properly and uneventfully.”