“A history of family violence has always been an important factor in the adjudication of parenting disputes. An Order for decision making is never appropriate when there is evidence that it will be misused to frustrate or control the other parent or a child in a manner that is not in the child’s best interests. A history of family violence is also relevant when deciding a parenting plan, specifically, its impact on the ability and willingness of the parent who engaged in family violence to care for and to meet the needs of the child, and to cooperate with the child’s other parent.”