“Following argument of this motion, counsel for the mother twice delivered a letter to me making further submissions. This was improper. Rule 1.09 provides that when a proceeding is pending before the court, no party to the proceeding and no party’s lawyer shall communicate about the proceeding with a judge, directly or indirectly unless all the parties consent in advance to the out of court communication or the court directs otherwise. I have disregarded the further submissions in coming to my decision in this matter.”